• On 23 February 2024
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How do you make up after a big fight with your partner?

Almost every relationship goes through several big fights. And unless they are properly reconciled, the wounds will never fully heal and the relationship will gradually head toward catastrophe. How to properly make up and what not to do?

First, determine the cause of the argument.

Before beginning the process of reconciliation, it is necessary to determine why the argument occurred and who started the argument. Arguing is an act that provokes a reaction, so one side is usually not at fault. However, if you have said or done something inappropriate, it is appropriate to apologize and wait for your partner to do the same and take responsibility for his or her actions. Only then will it be time to discuss the cause of the argument.

Calm down first

It is unwise to run into anger to apologize. Take time to think it over or talk to someone close to you. However, do not bring up details that might make your partner uncomfortable.

How to Write an Apology

Never use the word “but” in an apology. Sorry, but… “” is not an apology, but merely a denial of remorse or guilt. Ideally, say this first. Then calmly explain your actions to the other person. Without blaming the other person, communicate your feelings in a way that the other person can understand, and let the other person talk back. Listen to what the other person is saying and try to see the problem through their eyes.

Resolve the issue once and for all

Never sweep the issue under the carpet, as problems appear at inopportune times. Instead of simply resolving it with your partner, find forgiveness in your heart for yourself and him, and resolve the entire problem within yourself so that it no longer plays a role in your future relationship.